Opposites definitely attract when provided that you and the opposite pole are made of magnets. When it comes to relationships, this only goes as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Beyond that, the rule ceases to apply.

Here and there, we hear of couples who are having problems because of differences. He loves the night life; she prefers watching her favorite late night show. He is not fond of kids; she wants twins nine months after they get married.

Let us try to analyze a hypothetical relationship of a couple who are opposites and see the likelihood of Mike giving Kay a solitaire engagement ring. Mike is a workaholic. He works Mondays through Fridays and even does overtime on Saturdays. Tired and stressed, he prefers be a potato couch at home. He spends his Sundays watching TV and sleeps early to get ready for the next business day. Kay, on the other hand, loves the outdoors. Whenever she can, Kay goes out with friends to play golf. Looking at both their lifestyles, it is difficult to see how they will have enough time for each other.

John, no longer star struck, started noticing how Victoria nagged him about time. On top of this, Victoria loved the greens and enjoyed to collect golf gifts. She always wondered why John never bothered to give her one. How could he? He never enjoyed sports. How could he possibly relate to the joy of collecting things connected to your sport? Realizing all this, Victoria wonders if they will ever get to the point where he gives her a beautiful solitaire engagement ring and asks her to marry him.

During the same party, Christine and Jason also met. Unlike the previous couple, the meeting ended at that. It was in a bowling tournament that they both joined that they linked up again. Having the same set of friends, they would at times have coffee before heading out their own ways. Soon, they began having warm up bowling games together. Not long after, Jason grew a liking for Christine’s company, even while their conversations grew longer. Unlike his ex, Christine is very much into the sport, and who better to understand his spending much time and money on it, than her.

Between the two couple, who would better welcome early pregnancy signs? The couple that slowly drifted apart because the differences went unnoticed at the onset, John and Victoria? Or Jason and Christine, the pair that did not hit it at first, but over the course of time, fell for each other as they realized how alike they were?

There is nothing really wrong with either one of their lifestyles. It is just that they do not complement each other. If couples cannot find quality time to spend together, or have quality conversations, how can we expect for the relationship to grow?

Any chemistry between two people will need to be sustained. Otherwise, the flame dies down. So, before you let yourself fall for someone, see if you share enough things in common.

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