New relationships come equipped with a devotion that is sometimes a bit out of control. You want things to be right between you at all times. She is your top priority, your all, your everything. There is nothing you would not do to please her. And you go about your days doing just that, and then one day it hits you, some regrets have taken root in your mind, and things have gotten away from you.
This is especially true if you happen to have lived a certain way for a long time, and then get married to a woman who just does not see things in the same light as you do. She expects things from you that you never saw coming. Like parting ways with things that you once held very near and dear to your heart. She simple does not have the understanding to know what this means to you.
She is heading to your new home to get things ready, while you stay behind to clean things up and meet her there later. To have the money needed for this transition, you stay behind to do some odd jobs and haul off the trash. If you do the jobs, you will have enough to cover the move. She counted everything down to the penny.
The next day she kisses you goodbye. She boxed up everything to be thrown away, and says she will see you in three days to start your new life together, and she really loves you. Everything is boxed up. As you start to put the things out on the truck, you notice, there is your best golf instruction book, the one you learned to play from years ago, so dear to your heart, and now put into a box to be thrown away.
You know that every penny is needed. She counted everything and nothing can be left out in order to accomplish what you need to do to make this move. You begin to rationalize, how you just have to sacrifice when you get married, and she is well worth it. After all, these things were a part of your past, and you are now working on your future. She had no way of knowing how important that book was. Then suddenly, you spot something barely showing through a plastic bag. You look closer, and it is the torn leather watch your Father gave you for pitching such a good game when your little league team won the pennant.
You feel sick to your stomach. All these little parts of yourself, some not really important, but some terribly important, were about to leave for the trash heap. Now you pull out a plastic bag that is down inside the box, and you spot your old baseball glove. When you lift it from the bag, out of the thumb in the glove, falls your rhodium plated ring. It was presented to you at an honoring ceremony. They honored you for giving ten solid years of service at the local boys club working with young people in the community.
This was the ring that was given to you for your outstanding work with the local Boys’ Club. For ten years of faithful service that helped many young boys find help to stay off the streets and find purpose and meaning to their lives. It was a real accomplishment in your life. You realize that, just because you are starting a new life with her, it is a merger of two former lives, not the death of who you are. And you also realize, that if you are not careful, love can really hurt sometimes.
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